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Discover a simple principle CEOs use in business, and use it to transform your romantic relationship with your Woman.
Total Responsibility is a Crucial Trait of any CEO
One of my clients is a CEO of a multi-million company.
If he wants the company to grow and prosper, he has to take responsibility for EVERYTHING that doesn’t work.
Front-line workers fu*k up: he takes responsibility.
IT fu*ks up: he takes responsibility.
Researchers can’t figure something out: he takes responsibility.
He considers the problem as his own and leads everyone around him towards its resolution - until it's resolved.
That's taking responsibility.
When you're connected to your Masculine Instinct, this feels good in the body.
It's an experience of Honor.
(Jocko Willink made this concept popular in his book Extreme Ownership, applying the principles in the military and business.)
Taking Responsibility is the #1 Attribute of Good Leadership
Whatever happens in the company, the CEO always takes responsibility.
It's the only way for him to achieve his beautiful Vision for the business and change the world for the better.
I've heard successful business leaders repeat this over and over again:
Taking Responsibility is the #1 attribute of Leadership.
This is THE reason why my CEO client experiences explosive personal growth.
This is THE reason why he's superior to mid-management.
This is THE reason why the company is successful.
I've heard another CEO say:
"Your business is a mirror, constantly reflecting to you how you're doing as a Business Leader.
You can fight the mirror to change what you see. But we both know how that ends.
The other alternative is to take all failures as feedback.
And this is an incredibly difficult, ego-shattering thing to do.
But the growth and fulfillment that comes out of it is out of this world: giving work to people, being a role model, learning incredible skills, feeling total aliveness, creating an impact on the economy & society, money, philanthropy, learning what you're capable of, etc.
It's Freedom. Not the delusional hippie freedom of no responsibility.
It's the Freedom infused with Honor for doing the hard right thing.
In the Business world, this is obvious.
Yet, in a Romantic Relationship (or Marriage), however, this seems somewhat more complicated.
Why?
You, the Man, Are The CEO of Your Relationship
Being a Man in a relationship means that YOU LEAD. As long as you lead, everything works.
When you stop leading, the relationship slowly starts to deteriorate.
Taking Responsibility is a PREREQUISITE to Your Leadership with your Woman.
If you want to keep your relationship passionate, fulfilling, and growing, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything happening in that Romantic Relationship.
And then, you have to Lead your Woman to do the same.
Your relationship is a Mirror, giving you constant feedback on how you’re doing as a Relationship (or Family) Leader.
I often hear, that in a relationship, it's 50:50.
Or that the man shares the Leadership position with his Woman.
Or that we're equal, and Men shouldn't really Lead anything.
That's ridiculous.
You as a Man have an instinctually wired Need to Lead - which includes Provision and Protection. It's wired into your body, along with your hormonal and energetic system. There's nothing you can do about that.
You satisfy that Instinct every time you Provide for your Woman or Family. When you Protect them. When you create a safe space for them to thrive.
This makes a Man's Body come alive. That's the Instinct I talk about.
Man agree on this - it FEELS good.
Women don't have that biologically, they don't have that deep Instinct.
They can experience that Leadership energy.
But never to the same depth as Men.
Because Women have a different Instinct.
One that is fundamentally different, yet perfectly complementary to the Man's Instinct.
The Beautiful Feminine Instinct of Vulnerable Self-Expression
Women have an instinctually wired Need to Express themselves freely in their Vulnerability and receive the Man's Leadership.
That's why 93% of Mt. Everest climbers are Men.
And 94% of Childcare workers are Women.
It FEELS better in the BODY.
It's gender-specific.
So, since you're the Man, you're the Leader.
That means it's your job to have a Vision for your relationship.
It's your job to be the first person to take Total Responsibility for its fulfillment.
The moment you start blaming her for your inability to achieve your Relationship Vision is the moment when your relationship starts to fall.
It's the moment when the CEO says:
"Fu*k it, I can't achieve my Vision, because the Marketing Director is stubborn."
Whether he ACTUALLY is stubborn or not is irrelevant to the responsibility-taking.
He HAS TO take responsibility for the entire situation - stubborn or not - so he gets closer to the outcome: The Business Vision.
"This is easier said than done," you might say.
Of course.
But do you really have a choice?
Start. Leading. Immediately.
The opposite of taking responsibility, no matter how small, is to blame.
"I suffer because of YOU."
It's incredibly convenient.
Even more - it feels good.
Blame feels like a relief.
The problem is, if it happened, you MUST HAVE enabled it in some way (especially if this is already not the first time you're dealing with it.) If you don't figure out how the problem will come up again.
And your relationship will gradually get worse and worse until you take responsibility and change it anyway.
"Or I'll break up and find another woman." someone could say.
"It didn't work because of her," they'll say. "I'll fix it by finding another woman."
Yet, strangely, they’ll recreate the same patterns with the new woman in a ridiculously short time. It's almost predictable.
How many men do you know who jump from relationship to relationship only to experience the same dysfunctions and fuckups each time?
I’ve heard Alex Hormozi say about business:
“You’ll stop being poor the moment you get all the lessons that poverty has to teach.”
In Romantic Relationships, the principle is the same:
“You’ll stop having the repeated relationship conflicts the moment you get all the Leadership lessons that those conflicts have to teach.”
Therefore...
Take responsibility for EVERYTHING that doesn't work in your relationship.
Commit to making it work.
Find a Way and then...
...Lead.
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