I Help Men Overcome the Nice Guy Pattern, Build Confidence And Get Results.
Nice Guy Pattern.
Overthinking.
Procrastination.
Isn't it tiring, constantly having to be nice?
To always analyze, what's the best thing to do not to offend anyone - a woman, boss, colleague?
When did pleasing others turn from choice to an obligation?
These are some tough questions to answer because they challenge masculine confidence at its very core.
Most men don't have the courage to look inside and search for the truth of their reality.
It takes balls to face the truth and remain calm and constructive about it.
But here is also the truth:
No man had ever decided to embrace a Nice Guy pattern.
Nice Guy pattern is a learned behavior.
It's main component - avoiding emotional tension - is a survival mechanism that's running unconsciously.
All of the Nice Guy pattern's components serve to avoid emotional tension and unconsciously protect the psyche:
- faking smile in social discomfort
- agreeing with others out of fear of rejection/fear of being different
- fear of showing vulnerability
- difficulty with saying "NO" and setting boundaries
- fear of hurting other people
- fear of being uncovered as "fraud" by others (imposter syndrome)
- boring, mechanical conversations with women and lack of real connection
They are all a fawn stress reaction to an emotional flashback from CPTSD in the past.
All of these behaviors can be unlearned.
Nice Guy pattern can be unlearned and Authentic Masculine Confidence can be wired in.
It's another pattern, it just needs to be wired in.
The result is a new autopilot behavior based on:
1. Enjoying growth every day
2. Having beautiful experiences every day
3. Seeking emotional tension for growth, beauty, and a quest for adventure.
When these 3 become automatic, the result is Authentic Masculine Confidence.
Being on this website, chances are that you might be looking for more clarity on this topic.
You're in the right place.
If you're new with the Nice Guy pattern, I would recommend starting with the How To Heal Your Inner Nice Guy e-book.
If you want regular updates and education on the Nice Guy pattern and Authentic Masculine Confidence, join my free FB group for Men: Masculine Confidence Growth Strategies.
If you have any questions, feel free to reach out.
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All of these guys struggle for the same reason.
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Success Stories
My story
Being a Nice Guy most of my life, I sought respect and validation of others through achievement and being nice to everyone, hoping the world will be nice to me.
I became the national vice-champion in classical guitar & proficient in the Cuban Salsa and Afrocuban movement. I was fluent in 5 languages. I had a prestigious finance job, launched a tech company for a VC fund and led an educational NGO.
I was successful in my CV and I was nice to people.
However, under all this, there was a lot of rage, frustration, apathy, and sadness from lacking real emotional connection and deeper meaning behind all my chasing.
Gradually, I became depressed.
I went for therapy.
Very slowly I got a bit better and...then things got WAY worse.
Suicidal thoughts started to chase me and I had to consult a psychiatrist.
During my lowest point, I decided that I will rather die trying to figure it all out than give up and live a life in apathy, depression and on drugs.
I decided to test everything that exists to get better and to never stop, no matter what.
I hired the best coaches, I did Rogers' Encounter Groups, Tony Robbins events, The Fearless Man events, I did Public Speaking Trainings and Stand-Up performances, Wim Hof training and events, Qi Gong training, Tantra work, Releasing & Embodiment, ACIM, and other stuff.
When I tapped into my inner resources, I stopped searching for solutions in the outer world. I discovered my own power and things started to change very quickly.
Looking back, my life has been the greatest adventure I could wish for. My endless seeking for validation through achievement turned into a commitment to a never-ending growth to the next level and continuous increase of quality of my life - in wealth, relationships, sex, business, and family.
Even though it was a pain in the ass at times, today I am grateful. Because if it weren't that past, I would never have my mission-
"-to help other Men reach success and find fulfillment through living their lives at their edge."
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