Nice Guy Pattern.
Isn't it tiring, constantly having to be nice?
To always analyze, what's the best thing to do not to offend anyone - a woman, boss, colleague?
When did pleasing others turn from choice to an obligation?
These are some tough questions to answer because they challenge masculine confidence at its very core.
Most men don't have the courage to look inside and search for the truth of their reality.
It takes balls to face the truth and remain calm and constructive about it.
But here is also the truth:
No man had ever decided to embrace a Nice Guy pattern.
Nice Guy pattern is a learned behavior.
It's main component - avoiding emotional tension - is a survival mechanism that's running unconsciously.
All of the Nice Guy pattern's components serve to avoid emotional tension and unconsciously protect the psyche:
- faking smile in social discomfort
- agreeing with others out of fear of rejection/fear of being different
- fear of showing vulnerability
- difficulty with saying "NO" and setting boundaries
- fear of hurting other people
- fear of being uncovered as "fraud" by others (imposter syndrome)
- boring, mechanical conversations with women and lack of real connection
They are all a fawn stress reaction to an emotional flashback from CPTSD in the past.
All of these behaviors can be unlearned.
Nice Guy pattern can be unlearned and Authentic Masculine Confidence can be wired in.
It's another pattern, it just needs to be wired in.
The result is a new autopilot behavior based on:
1. Enjoying growth every day
2. Having beautiful experiences every day
3. Seeking emotional tension for growth, beauty, and a quest for adventure.
When these 3 become automatic, the result is Authentic Masculine Confidence.
Being on this website, chances are that you might be looking for more clarity on this topic.
You're in the right place.
If you're new with the Nice Guy pattern, I would recommend starting with the How To Heal Your Inner Nice Guy e-book.
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