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The Deepest Fear Behind Dating & Romantic Relationships

If you want to be successful with women and/or find the love of your life, here's the most fundamental question you can ask yourself.

Would you be ready to stay single for the rest of your life?

If not, then your dating and romantic relationship will be based on running away from fear.

You will use the other person to protect yourself from the worst thing that can possibly happen to you.

Sadly, an overwhelming majority of men around the world operate in this realm. They date women so they don't have to feel lonely.

They are in a crappy relationship because it's "better than nothing".

A crappy relationship is better than nothing?

Or is it just a nice way to hide the real truth:

A crappy relationship is better than the even worse crap: being alone for the rest of your life.

If you're dating with this mindset, you probably feel resistance to approaching women, dating women, seeking connection, and getting intimate.

You're averse to it, but you can't openly admit it to yourself because if you acted on it, you would give up.

And with that, you would have to face that fear again:

Forever alone.

If you're in a relationship with this mindset, your woman probably triggers the hell out of you and you have no idea what to do about it. You probably consider whether it was ever a good idea to be with her in the first place. You tolerate the unbearable and you justify it with "just being nice".


Because the alternative to that is way worse:

Forever alone.

And what's the worst part about being forever alone?

The idea that you will never, ever be really, fully happy.

So if we're really brutally honest here, the truth is that you are using your woman (or women) to get that happiness through her.

Now, I'm not moralizing, there's no right or wrong here.

There's just stuff that works and stuff that doesn't.

And here's the beautiful paradoxical truth about this strategy:

𝐓𝐰𝐨 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞, 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐝𝐲𝐬𝐟𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐲 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐟𝐮*𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐮𝐩 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬.

In most cases, they have no idea, this is the dynamics of their relationship, so they will be trying to "do something".

They will try to save the relationship.

So they have kids.

And their kids end up saving them unconsciously, bringing even more chaos and misery to the already failing relationship.

All because of an emotion, that has been unknowingly driving them all along.