The Deepest Fear Behind Dating & Romantic Relationships

If you want to be successful with women and/or find the love of your life, here's the most fundamental question you can ask yourself.





Would you be ready to stay single for the rest of your life?


If not, then your dating and romantic relationship will be based on running away from fear.


You will use the other person to protect yourself from the worst thing that can possibly happen to you.


Sadly, an overwhelming majority of men around the world operate in this realm. They date women so they don't have to feel lonely.


They are in a crappy relationship because it's "better than nothing".


A crappy relationship is better than nothing?


Or is it just a nice way to hide the real truth:

A crappy relationship is better than the even worse crap: being alone for the rest of your life.


If you're dating with this mindset, you probably feel resistance to approaching women, dating women, seeking connection, and getting intimate.


You're averse to it, but you can't openly admit it to yourself because if you acted on it, you would give up.


And with that, you would have to face that fear again:

Forever alone.


If you're in a relationship with this mindset, your woman probably triggers the hell out of you and you have no idea what to do about it. You probably consider whether it was ever a good idea to be with her in the first place. You tolerate the unbearable and you justify it with "just being nice".


Why?

Because the alternative to that is way worse:

Forever alone.


And what's the worst part about being forever alone?

The idea that you will never, ever be really, fully happy.





So if we're really brutally honest here, the truth is that you are using your woman (or women) to get that happiness through her.


Now, I'm not moralizing, there's no right or wrong here.

There's just stuff that works and stuff that doesn't.


And here's the beautiful paradoxical truth about this strategy:


𝐓𝐰𝐨 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞, 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐝𝐲𝐬𝐟𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐬𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐲 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐟𝐮*𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐮𝐩 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬.


In most cases, they have no idea, this is the dynamics of their relationship, so they will be trying to "do something".


They will try to save the relationship.


So they have kids.

And their kids end up saving them unconsciously, bringing even more chaos and misery to the already failing relationship.


All because of an emotion, that has been unknowingly driving them all along.





What's the way out?


The first step is understanding.


All human motivation is based on one thing:

The principle of Pain & Pleasure.


Your motivation is made up of a ratio between these two forces:

1. Running away from pain,

2. Running towards pleasure.


100% pain-driven people are consumed by negativity. They are drowning in it. There is no space for personal growth because life is all about survival. They live their lives evading the chain of catastrophes, hating the authorities who are creating "all this mess", and living in a state of constant guilt, blame and fear. The survival mode. They're miserable most of the time and self-development "doesn't work" for them, because they are too proud to accept the possibility that they're responsible for all that.


100% pleasure-driven people surround themselves with other empowering people, read stuff that uplifts their spirit and they are constantly seeking ways to improve their lives and the lives of others. They're feeling grateful most of the time, and seek fulfillment and service to others.


All people are somewhere on the scale between these two extremes.


Now, the more pain-driven you are, the more any activity will be full of effort and resistance, and eventually - suffering.


I'll give you an example:

Learning to ride a bike.


Pleasure. If you're learning how to ride a bike because you have fun, you want to try again and again because every time you get a little bit better and you can FEEL how amazing it will be when you'll know how to do it...you'll have fun and you'll learn fast.


Pain. If you're learning how to ride a bike, so that you don't have to be ashamed in front of your friends because you're the only one who doesn't know it yet - you'll hate the process. You'll hate the bike. All pain will be magnified 1.000 times and you'll hate everything about it. And you'll end up resenting your friends because deep inside you know, you're doing it for them, not for yourself.


Now, here's the thing:

DATING & RELATIONSHIPS ARE EXACTLY THE SAME.


If you're with women in order to be happy (= not alone) because you can't possibly be happy without them (or her), you will unconsciously hate them and everything about them.


You will hate the relationship conversations.

You will hate leading your woman.

You will hate seduction, flirting, and intimacy.


Because every time you will experience failure in it, it will remind you, that you're one step closer to your worst nightmare, and you will unconsciously blame them for making you go through that.


But at the same time, you'll be hopeless because the alternative is million times worse: forever alone.


Now there are two ways out of this.





Exhausting vs. enjoyable


1. Learn everything about dating, women, seduction, intimacy, social dynamics, conversation techniques, etc. so that you never have to confront your fear and confront it 40 years later when it's inevitable (because all fears come true, eventually).


2. Or release the fear, define what you want, and create it in your life the way you want it.


It really is that simple, if you know how to release.


Fear of being alone for the rest of your life is nothing huge.

It's an emotion.

It's just fear.


You're a grown-up man and you can work through your fear.


In fact, it already wants to leave.

Just like every emotion.

All you need to do is just let it go.


Emotional releasing.


Maybe you did meditation, therapy, coaching, tantra, or even psychedelics.

Emotional releasing is the root cause of why ALL of these healing modalities work.


Learn emotional releasing and all of these will work for you 100 times faster.

And you will also see the simplicity of it, while releasing your fears, including the greatest one about loneliness and abandonment.


"Common sense," that's what my clients say.


When you create your relationships and dating experiences from the place without fear, it's a delight. The entire process is enjoyable. There is no suffering involved, no sacrifices, and no tolerance for suffering. You're having fun, you're learning extremely fast, and you're feeling gratitude for your growth and beautiful experiences. And what you'll discover goes way beyond dating and the romantic relationships:


The real and only source of happiness has always been inside you. And the greatest pleasure YOU can feel is giving love to others.


Including your woman.



 


If you want to work on your confidence, dating, and/or relationship life, book a free call with me here for a deep diagnostics session. The purpose of the call will be to give you 100% clarity on your current patterns and areas where you sabotage yourself and create a step-by-step game plan for you to push through those patterns, so you can build natural masculine confidence and live the greatest life you possibly can.



PS: The fear of being alone for the rest of your life probably looks like a boogie man right now. Especially if you've never explored it before. But because the Universe is relative, this fear carries with itself a gift: it wants to show you that ALL your happiness is really coming from the inside. This is your ticket to discovering it on your own. Don't believe me just because I've said that. Prove it to yourself. Start with booking the session now.

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