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How To Find Your Passion

And why most people struggle with it.



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We all know that guy.

“I’m trying to find my passion.”

He heard in a speech, that being passionate was the key to business success. He read on a dating website, that passionate about his purpose will make him more masculine and attractive for women. He knows passion from sex and he feels like it’s the right thing.

When he finds it, everything will change!

So he searches and searches and searches:

“How do I find my passion?”

he keeps asking himself every day. And that b*tch just won’t reveal itself.

Passion should come up naturally, right?

It should be something that is unique to him, something he’s good at naturally, something he enjoys, and it will create a perfect synergy between himself and the world.

Once he finally finds it, life gets juicy, right?

No.


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Here is the hard truth about passion

1. Passion is a side-effect of commitment

Passion is an effect of commitment, not its cause.

When you truly commit to one thing and one thing only, you focus all your mental energy there. Nothing else exists. It feels so good, you become consumed by it. You become it. Internally, you feel as if you already achieved that which you committed to. That’s how strong the commitment is.

Every successful entrepreneur knows this feeling.

You become one with it. You see the contrast between the result you committed to and your reality and it almost pisses you off. It won’t let you sleep. You wake up excited, you work excited because everything you do brings you one step closer to your new reality you are already living internally. That’s what passion feels like.

But this feeling can exist thanks to the commitment that preceded it!

It didn’t appear out of nowhere like Jehova’s witnesses at your front door.

If your commitment becomes the only fixed point in the universe, then passion starts flowing. Its job is to help you to get there and to outgrow your current self.

And that can be painful, of course.

But it’s no surprise, because…



 


2. The word passion has a Latin origin — it is “partior” and it means to suffer.

Commitment requires accepting the potential suffering upfront. 

When you truly commit, it’s because you know it’s worth it.  You know there will be days when you won’t feel like following through.

But if you know it’s worth it, that won’t stop you.

It’s not always juicy progress and flow-state immersion. It’s also days when you don’t feel like following through. Nothing works and everything is f*cked and doing the work feels like pure suffering.


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However, during these special circumstances, you do nothing special at all.

If you want to keep your passion, you do the work anyway. This resistance — that emotional tension you feel — is the raw material of your goal.

If you stop, the emotional tension turns into frustration, disappointment, and apathy.

Some of you roll your eyes now, thinking:

Yeah, of course, keep going… But how do you do sh*t when you don’t feel like doing sh*t?!

Eye-rolling is a form of passive-aggression. It’s the energy of anger. And it’s also the answer. 


 

3. Passion comes just after Anger

You reconnect with your anger and do stuff anyway.

People don’t struggle with finding their passion because it’s hidden somewhere in the outside world.

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