When your Confidence goes hand-in-hand with Good Mental Health, it becomes natural and effortless.
Emotional tension is unavoidable.
It's the basic building block of life - in Nature, in the human body, in the psyche, in society, etc...
Most men are avoiding tension, believing that when they get good enough at it, life will get better.
"If I can only be a better communicator, better manager, better analyst, better husband, better boyfriend... there would be less tension and life would just be better!"